This week on Pinterest, I stumbled across an article about birth order personality traits.
As I read it, I realized how much my birth order had affected my personality and my life.
I am the oldest of the three sisters, who are 22 and 19. And as I continued reading the article, I realized how some of the personality traits for the middle and youngest child also match my little sisters. Here is the chart I saw:
Like many oldest children, I was told I am responsible for my little sisters. It was my job to protect them and make sure they are safe. I started babysitting them when I was 12/13, and as a result, my little sisters would come to me whenever they had a problem and needed help, which I loved.
As the oldest, we are automatically the leader of our siblings, and with the sense of responsibility, we are often more cautious, self-motivated, self-driven, and conscientious.
However (at least for myself), these traits morphed into a people-pleasing mindset, need to be perfect and make everyone happy even at the detriment of my happiness and being the “fixer.”
As I mentioned, my sisters would and still come to me for help and advice, but back then, I would do everything for them and fix everything, even if I didn't want to. I would bend over backward to make them happy and please them in any way.
It was not helpful for them or me. With therapy, I figured out that the best way to help me and my sisters is to assist and advise them to have them solve their problems on their own. It gives them the independence they need and gives me a break from running around like a chicken with my head cut off
Due to our traits of responsibility and cautiousness, firstborns are often Type A and are extremely hard on ourselves. We have a fear of failure (perfectionist complex), which results in us not being the biggest fan of change, and it is hard for us to step out of our comfort zone.
I used to talk to myself so horribly and not give myself the love I deserved because I felt like my life and myself was not perfect, but now I know that nobody is excellent, and I should treat myself better.
I don't only want to talk about how bad being the firstborn has been. There are many benefits.
The firstborn is the only sibling that was able to get all the attention from their parent(s). We are also more organized and patient. The oldest children are also the most scholarly and open to learning more and new skills. We confidently dream and plan because our Type A personality will not allow us to do without a plan in place.
AND THE BEST THING I READ, We often outearn our siblings and pursue careers in law, medicine, engineering, sales, or own a business.
I know that being the oldest child is not the sole reason for all my personality traits. Many of them have to do with the family dynamics, environments, and personal traumas endorsed. Still, it's fun to see how many of these personality traits relate to you as it relates to your birth order.
The same way astrological sign traits can bring various people together, so can our birth order.
Comment below with your birth order and if any of the traits relate to you.
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