Picture it. Dollar General, 2018 (I really hope you got that reference)
I am standing in line and in front of me stood a couple; a man and a woman. The woman has her hands full of items, while the man stands behind her with nothing in his hands. As the attendant rings up the items and the woman pays for them. The man reaches toward a carousel of snacks and picks up a $3 hot sausage. He taps the woman on the shoulder and asks her “Can I get this?”
As I watched this interaction, a few questions crossed my mind: “Why is he asking her this?“ “Is she his personal trainer?”; “Can he not afford it and expects her to buy this for him?” “Is she going to cuss him out right here or wait until later?”
This made me think of all the stories I hear and read about women not knowing and understanding their value. Someone once said, “If you don’t value yourself, you will always be attracted to people who don’t value you either.” I have seen this statement ring true so many times.
Women are very valuable creatures. We literally bring life into the world. We have started wars and ended feuds. Not to mention the individual qualities we have that make us even more phenomenal. Diamonds are extremely valuable, the average person has to work months and/or years to get one because of the because of their strength and uniqueness. Think of women as the same.
There are so many women who are with partners who do not value or respect them but are with them anyway, just for the idea of having someone. It's not the woman’s fault. Society makes women think to have a perfect life and bring their life meaning, they should be dating or married. Elderly women often ask women in the 20 and 30, “When are you going to get married? Have kids? You know you aren’t getting any younger?” Until this perfectly beautiful and intelligent young woman is asking herself those same questions and lowering the bar for potential partners until she literally will take anyone with a pulse. This is a dangerous mindset to have.
Wendy Raquel Robinson’s character on “Two Can Play That Game” (I know…I know, just follow me.) was a beautiful woman with a good job and lovely friends who met a broke man with a jerry curl and crooked teeth who was only good at one thing – if you know what I mean. She dated him, gave him a makeover and bought him new teeth and he started to show his behind by not treating her the way she deserved. Her character refuses to leave him, because of all the time and energy put into that relationship. Relationships like this cause a “Ring The Alarm” situation.
Nothing bad happens to you if you are not married by the age of 30. God doesn’t spite you, and you don’t turn into a frog. As long as you are happy, everything else will work itself out.
I am not saying that being in a relationship and being married are bad things. I am saying, be in those relationships with people who respect and value you. When you know who you are and the qualities about yourself that make you amazing and would make anyone in the world lucky as hell to have you in their life; you know your value. With that, comes the ease to spot out and reject those who don’t, and the confidence to demand exceptional treatment.
When you are single and your life is on 9/10 and someone comes along and stresses you and annoys you until your life is now a 6, it's nothing to tell that person to get out and resume your life at a 9/10. But when you never figured out who you are by yourself and the greatness in that, you will always look for someone else to fulfill your happiness and increase your value.
Women the most valuable and influential people on this planet. History has shown men jumping through hoops and fighting for the attention of women. All women should DEMAND the respect we deserve for the value we have; and only allow those who do to inhabit our amazingness.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.