This is one of my favorites!!! Mostly because it is so funny and a little heartbreaking. I have a few questions that need answers before I can give any type of good advice. How did he propose? Did he get down on one knee or was it a sex proposal (those don’t count anyway)? The fact that he “took it back” makes me laugh all over again because his excuse was the fact that he was high. Now I have not gotten high in a while, but I have been both drunk and high. During that period, I did wake up the next day and had to take some things back and reverse some actions from when I was drunk and high. A PROPOSAL THO?!?!? My advice to you is to have a sober conversation with your man and talk to him about the fact that you want to get married. Ya’ll been together 3 years and you obviously want marriage so talk to him about it. Also, let him know that if he ever ask you to marry him again while he is high; he is going to wake ups sober AND single.
GUUUURRRRRLLLLLLLL! This is insane. You are no longer babysitting, you are the temporary guardian at this point. Your cousin needs to come get these damn kids. My issue is she left her kids with you while she tries to get A MAN BACK?!?!? So, I am assuming her man is not a good example for your kids, or don’t like your kids, or whatever. Your cousin is probably enjoying the break from her two toddlers and flaunting on Insta with her man BUT that does not change the fact that those are her kids. My advice is contact any family members to see if they can take the kids or at least plan an intervention for her to get the kids. If she continues to refuse to pick up her kids, threaten her to call social services.
This is Bonnie and Clyde gone ALL THE WAY wrong!!! She was a little too heavy on the gas pedal and ran you over. HER BAD! I do not fault you for not sharing the settlement money, you had medical bills to pay for the ribs and ankle she ran over with her car. It would be nice for her to help you around since she caused the injures BUT we must not forget that you were a willing participant in this plan. In the original plan, you were supposed to share the money with her. The trust in this relationship is GONE. I have no advice for this. On the bright side, she cannot sue you for the settlement money and you would not want her to because it reveals the plan to fraud the insurance company. I also wonder if she is in a criminal investigation?
YAAASSS QUUUUEEENNN! I am a fan of this scam. I suggest we as black women support this black woman as she dates and scam this Irish man. I am adopting the “gifting policy” to my dating life. Ladies, I suggest you do the same.
So, my first thoughts are: yall been dating for 2 years and this is first time you guys spent the night together but ok. Having nightmare and screaming like a child, I feel is a bit much, but your feelings are valid. I also wonder the race of this man because I feel black men know about wigs and weaves and know that they should ask before running fingers through hair. My advice is to journal, talk to someone about your nightmare, preferably not your girlfriend and use this as a lesson to not run your fingers through hair with permission.
YOU HAD ME IN YOUR CORNER RIGHT UP UNTIL THE END!!! This was not “Out of the blue” sis!! You were sleeping with her man, she found out, and came for you. Now her actual husband took her side and got her another job at a different department (we will not praise him for this since he was cheating and probably only got her another job because she made him, or he didn’t want to cover the bills alone). You got nothing and honestly you deserve (he deserves to lose something as well). You were with the man for 2 years and you played yourself. Lesson: Close your legs to married men.
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