Do you still dream? I recently realized I stopped.
We often tell children to follow their dreams. However, as adults, we start to feel like we have outgrown that advice. Responsibilities show up, we start to get practical, and those dreams seem foolish.
My parents' generation were not dreamers but practical providers. They worked the same job for 40 or 50 years — even if they hated it — to provide for their family. There is nothing wrong with this mentality, but millennials are different.
Millennials are following their dreams while finding new ways and paths to follow them. Once to become a model, you needed to get discovered through an official modeling agency, but now with enough Instagram followers and engagements, you can become a high fashion model. Creating alternative paths to success makes dreams seem more accessible than ever before.
When I was a kid, I loved to dream. I would create scrapbooks of the life I wanted from the career to the car, house, and even clothes. After graduating from college, I realized how hard it would be to make those dreams come true. I struggled and became discouraged. I started to accept and appreciate where I was in life instead of focusing on some stupid dream I had when I was a kid.
I recently read an article in Psychology Today that talks about the “problem” with following your dreams as an adult. The article states that people who choose to follow their dreams as adults are being selfish and will abandon all responsibilities to follow a “purpose” they have. It also states those who do not have a purpose — it should say who has not found their purpose yet — are sheep or some people are just interested in many multiple things and don’t have one purpose.
I related to this article because I understood the perspective. Some people easily find their purpose and passion early in life, while some take time to find. It is also fine having more than one passion. These things do not mean you have no purpose or passion, but you have not found it yet, and that is also OK.
I read another article written by a professor for the College of Adult and Graduate Studies of Colorado Christian University. His article takes a more balanced approach to adults who are following their dreams. The professor advises NOT to give up everything but to make some sacrifices toward following your dreams. These sacrifices can include going out less if you are studying for graduate school, networking if you are trying to break into a new industry, and surrounding yourself with people who support your dream and possibly removing those who are negative.
The professor reminds the reader, there is no perfect time to follow your dream, and it will be tough, but so is the reader. The professor also reminds the reader that your dream and purpose are whatever you want them to be. There is nothing wrong if your passion is to become a great writer, a fashion model, a podcaster, or an amazing stay at home who raises amazing kids.
Pursuing your dream is about making a life you would love living.
It is important to appreciate what you currently have in life, but there is nothing wrong with dreaming about the life you want and putting some feet on that dream and making it a goal. It’s about balance.
One of my biggest fears is ending up being a co-star in someone else’s dream that I didn’t want but settle for because I didn’t know what my dream was. (That is how one of my relationships ended, but that’s another blog post.)
I am going to start dreaming again and thinking about what I am passionate about, what I want my life to look like, and how I can make that possible.
What are some of your dreams? Share them with me!
I’ve decided that I will start blogging again since we are all quarantined. This Coronavirus is crazy and people are just not taking it as seriously as they need to but I will keep that rant to myself and my Twitter account.
We are on week 4 of The End of The World and during this time I’ve been thinking a lot about how grateful my situation is.
I am reading and seeing many articles about the rise in unemployment, people worrying about being homeless, people not being able to go home and see their loved ones, and it is during those moments I must thank God for the blessings he has given me.
My full-time job is still operational, we are working from home and I am still making my salary and commission. I am currently (knock on wood) able to continue to pay bills and provide food for myself. I do not have any other dependents to worry about it. I do miss my family in SC, and I wish that I could go see them, but I know that it is best for me to #StayHome and quarantine.
In the times when my anxiety is through the roof, it humbles me and brings me back to remember how grateful I am and should continue to be. I must remember to not take my blessings lightly. To be thankful to all the essential workers who are exposing themselves every day, so we have our deliveries, our food, our waste managed, and everything else.
A few things this situation has made me realize are