Flashback Friday. I was going through some archives and stumbled upon something I wrote back in 2011. I was a junior in high school. I remember what it felt like to release this through the keyboard. I have always loved writing and the ability to release my emotions on a page. Be blessed, family. New original content coming next week.
Yesterday I was reading the Six Brown Chick submission this week, and I heard myself say out loud "Who raised ya'll?" It was at that moment, I realized the blessing of being raised and influenced by so many beautiful, strong, and amazing women. There are many children, who do not have positive female role models; and I was blessed enough to have them all around me.
Starting with the women in my family. My mother and my grandmother who are some of the strongest women that I know. My mother is a single mother who made countless sacrifices that I still don't know about to make sure we never wanted for anything. My grandmother quit her job to raise my sister and I (and never lets us forget), her house was our home. I owe these women, my entire soul.
My aunts who were always around to help guide my sister and me when we needed it. My Aunt Pam, who loves with honestly and fearlessly. She says what she wants and when she wants, and I envy that. My Godmother Joan who exampled a supportive, loving and somewhat annoying big sister, that she is to my mother. I'm sure TK would say I am following that model. LOL. My Aunt Vanessa, who taught me that following a dream and starting successful businesses can happen at any age while still being humble and loving. All these aunts are breast cancer survivors, 2 of them have lost a child and the strength they carry in them; it is a blessing if a drop of it runs in my veins. My Aunt Button and Aunt Missy were always there when we needed them with love and support even after the divorce. That doesn't always happen.
My sister and I are also the youngest of all our older cousins. It was amazing to see them transform into these beautiful and successful women, who still inspire me today. It was inspirational to see the different paths they choose; Adriene and Tan to the military and Tia and Shanda to college. This showed me my path was not limited.
Tia would come home from college to spoil me and take me to the movies. She is my big sister. I would tell every random thing, good news, or bad news. She would be there with love and support or how I needed to get it together because I was being dramatic.
My mother put me in Girl Scouts, where I did not only learn lessons on becoming a prepared and confident young woman but surrounded me with more amazing women. Alice Benton and my many girl scout leaders will forever have a special place in my heart.
I think about the female teachers I had in school like Mrs. Little in the fifth grade who told me if I stopped talking so much and got my work done, I would surprise myself by my potential.
I think about all the women at church like Ms. Viola Pitts and Ms. Bessie Peterson, who gave me my first job at the church as assistant secretary. Also, Angel Colclough-Bradshaw, who made sure I was on the children's choir, praise team, and whatever other church activity she saw fit.
This is a love letter to every woman who has given me guidance, a word of encouragement, an "I love you" or a look telling me to get it together; you are appreciated. I thank you, and I thank God for you. Because of all of you, I am the woman I am today, and I continue to surround myself with women who encourage and support me because you showed me how great I can be with the support.
This week in America is really tripping, Alabama's Republican Governor signed an abortion ban into law. This ban is the strictest abortion ban; making performing abortions a felony punishable by up to 99 years in prison with no expectations for rape or incest. The law only makes exceptions for medical emergencies and is very specific on what classifies as an emergency.
The Alabama Senate (ALL MEN) passed this law on Tuesday night and Gov. Kay Ivey signed on Wednesday morning stating "…every life is a sacred gift from God."
What Gov. Ivey, the idiot Senators in Alabama, and anyone else who supports this ridiculous bill does not understand is, this law will not abolish abortions but only legal and safe abortions. This will increase back-alley abortions, which uses non-sterile equipment and unsafe medical procedures that are harmful.
It is always surprising to me when I see republicans championing for abortion bans and pro-life laws when they also want to get rid of or cut government-funded assistance like WIC, Medicaid and other programs. So, the government wants to make sure you have carried the baby to full term and delivered it but holds back on helping and supporting you once the baby gets here.
As if this law wasn't bad enough, the Republicans are looking to use this law to challenge Roe vs. Wade. As we all know, Roe vs. Wade is that landmark case of 1973 that we all learned in school. The case provided our fundamental "right to privacy" that protects a pregnant woman's liberty to choose whether or not to have an abortion. This case also ruled that during the first-trimester government could not ban abortions at all but could make health regulations for the 2nd trimester.
Georgia is the sixth state to sign the 6-week abortion ban, which they are also calling the "heartbeat bill"; because the heartbeat can be heard at that time. These laws and the Alabama Law go against the already precedent ruling of Roe vs Wade, which they are trying to take back to Supreme Court.
Many medical professionals state medical and clinical abortions are some of the safest medical procedures - when done by trained medical professionals - with a safety and success rate of 90+ % when done during the first trimester of pregnancy (which is around 12-13 weeks).
This is a war on women's reproductive rights!!
If someone is pregnant, especially if they are impregnated against their will, why would you take more choices away from them? Why would you reinstate a lesson that they have no control over what happens to their body? WHY?!!?!
Even if you don't give a damn about women's rights or you are pro-life and you want a ban on abortions, this is about RIGHTS. My rights. Someone's daughter's rights. Your rights.
Today, they are trying to overturn a case on my reproductive rights; TOMORROW they could be trying to take away your rights. This is a very slippery slope.
As I am writing this blog post, Missouri just passed another abortion ban law.
I cannot stress enough how serious this is!!
These laws will not go into effect for a while, so we still have time!
This is one of my favorites!!! Mostly because it is so funny and a little heartbreaking. I have a few questions that need answers before I can give any type of good advice. How did he propose? Did he get down on one knee or was it a sex proposal (those don’t count anyway)? The fact that he “took it back” makes me laugh all over again because his excuse was the fact that he was high. Now I have not gotten high in a while, but I have been both drunk and high. During that period, I did wake up the next day and had to take some things back and reverse some actions from when I was drunk and high. A PROPOSAL THO?!?!? My advice to you is to have a sober conversation with your man and talk to him about the fact that you want to get married. Ya’ll been together 3 years and you obviously want marriage so talk to him about it. Also, let him know that if he ever ask you to marry him again while he is high; he is going to wake ups sober AND single.
GUUUURRRRRLLLLLLLL! This is insane. You are no longer babysitting, you are the temporary guardian at this point. Your cousin needs to come get these damn kids. My issue is she left her kids with you while she tries to get A MAN BACK?!?!? So, I am assuming her man is not a good example for your kids, or don’t like your kids, or whatever. Your cousin is probably enjoying the break from her two toddlers and flaunting on Insta with her man BUT that does not change the fact that those are her kids. My advice is contact any family members to see if they can take the kids or at least plan an intervention for her to get the kids. If she continues to refuse to pick up her kids, threaten her to call social services.
This is Bonnie and Clyde gone ALL THE WAY wrong!!! She was a little too heavy on the gas pedal and ran you over. HER BAD! I do not fault you for not sharing the settlement money, you had medical bills to pay for the ribs and ankle she ran over with her car. It would be nice for her to help you around since she caused the injures BUT we must not forget that you were a willing participant in this plan. In the original plan, you were supposed to share the money with her. The trust in this relationship is GONE. I have no advice for this. On the bright side, she cannot sue you for the settlement money and you would not want her to because it reveals the plan to fraud the insurance company. I also wonder if she is in a criminal investigation?
YAAASSS QUUUUEEENNN! I am a fan of this scam. I suggest we as black women support this black woman as she dates and scam this Irish man. I am adopting the “gifting policy” to my dating life. Ladies, I suggest you do the same.
So, my first thoughts are: yall been dating for 2 years and this is first time you guys spent the night together but ok. Having nightmare and screaming like a child, I feel is a bit much, but your feelings are valid. I also wonder the race of this man because I feel black men know about wigs and weaves and know that they should ask before running fingers through hair. My advice is to journal, talk to someone about your nightmare, preferably not your girlfriend and use this as a lesson to not run your fingers through hair with permission.
YOU HAD ME IN YOUR CORNER RIGHT UP UNTIL THE END!!! This was not “Out of the blue” sis!! You were sleeping with her man, she found out, and came for you. Now her actual husband took her side and got her another job at a different department (we will not praise him for this since he was cheating and probably only got her another job because she made him, or he didn’t want to cover the bills alone). You got nothing and honestly you deserve (he deserves to lose something as well). You were with the man for 2 years and you played yourself. Lesson: Close your legs to married men.